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Module 04

Speak to the Elephant, Not Just the Rider

The Emotional Brain Decides First

Core Question

What if the rational mind isn't the one making the decision?

Overview

Jonathan Haidt's metaphor comes alive in this module. The elephant (emotion) moves first — the rider (logic) just explains it afterward. Learn to speak the elephant's language.

"The elephant never forgets how you made it feel."

— Steven Sisler

Learning Objectives

  • Understand the elephant-rider metaphor in decision-making
  • Identify when the elephant is leading vs. the rider
  • Develop communication strategies that speak to the emotional brain first
  • Create safety before presenting logic

Key Concepts

The Elephant and the RiderEmotional PrimacySafety Before LogicLimbic Resonance
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